26 weeks!! That’s what my FB status would say tomorrow. I would be complaining about how my little one is in my ribs all day. I would be talking about the baby using my bladder as a squeeze toy. I might even be posting my latest craving. But I’m not. My facebook and blog is filled with what ifs. What if I hadn’t lost my precious gift. What if I wasn’t out to sea. What if… I am trying so hard to keep it all together, but it gets harder everyday I get closer to my due date. All I can think about is what I did to deserve this pain. What I can do to make it go away. What I can do to be pregnant again. I know that another baby will never replace that initial joy. The excitement I had never seen in my husband “can I call my dad now?!” the tears of joy I rarely experienced before and haven’t experienced since. I find myself hiding status updates from those that dote over their beautiful babies and shying away from my support system since they’re all mommies now. I hate that I’m out here all alone. I’m not even with my own ship and my friends. I was too afraid to ask for my orders back because I was so sure I would be pregnant again in no time. Why did I think that I was that lucky? I should have just gone back. Obviously I’d still be there with them. I’d have my friends. Now I just want to die. I want to curl up and die. I don’t want to be here. I want to go home. I’m tired all the time from crying, I try my best to lean on my Lord but I don’t think I’m doing it right. 😦 I wish I could make my pain go away.
It’s so not fair…
13 Mar 2010 1 Comment
in Uncategorized Tags: anger, emotions, grief, loneliness, loss, miscarriage, pregnancy, sad, sadness, tears
I was cleaning today and about had a mental breakdown. I thought I was ok. I knew I was still sad, but it hit me like a ton of bricks out of no where; I’m not pregnant. I’m not pregnant but you know who is?
- A drug addict.
- A child abuser.
- A neglectful woman.
- A teenager.
- A woman with 4 kids already.
- A girl who doesn’t want kids.
- A girl who’s contemplating abortion.
- A woman who’s using it as a bargaining chip.
- A woman who was about to leave her husband.
- A woman who’s slept with 5 people beforehand.
Why does that even make sense?! Why is that in any way fair? So by all logic, I should do everything wrong in order to get what I want. It should be hard for them, not me! You know what I pictured this morning? God passing out babies to all the women who don’t want one or shouldn’t have one and somehow I got mixed in. 4 weeks pass and he realized the mistake and took mine. That’s how I feel. Like he took mine back! I’m just so upset by everything. What am I doing wrong? Why am I failing as a woman?
Holy Crap it’s midnight!
26 Feb 2010 3 Comments
in Uncategorized Tags: boston terrier, dog park, loneliness, loss, medical, navy medical, poodle, pregnancy, puppy, swimming
So I wanted to give a quick update on me. 🙂 Hey you’re reading my blog, of course I’m going to talk about me…
I gave the un-pregnancy memo to CS1 today. He’s going to run that to admin so that I can go talk to a detailer. Medical of course has been a pain in the ass. Ah well. I’m glad I know people who have been here before so I know what steps to take medically. Because OBVIOUSLY, the “medical professionals” at the medical branch clinic don’t know how to do their freaking job. I mean seriously, Google it or something! Ugh.
My widdle Roxy-pup… I took her (and the Bubs of course!) to the dog park yesterday. At first she was loving all the new attention, she was playing with the other dogs and then… EVIL CURLY HAIRED DEMONS!!! A poodle tried to eat her. 😦 After that, she would not leave my side and would whimper if I tried to leave her on the ground for too long. She’s very obviously my dog and not Juan’s. 😛 She won’t do anything he says, but I have taught her some basic commands. 🙂
Loneliness. It seems that with my husband’s schedule, I am constantly alone. It sucks. Really. I go to work in the morning, get off and he’s sleeping. He wakes up, gets ready for work and leaves. I go to bed. He gets off of work (2AM) and goes to bed around 5. I wake up at 6. This is every day. I hate it! I tried telling him he should go to bed when he gets home so we can hang out a little bit when I get off and before he goes in, but he doesn’t listen! I’m really lonely all the time! And ever since loosing the baby, I need him!
Oh, yea. I finally stopped bleeding. I am going to start swimming again Monday morning. As long as I’m at TPU, I’m going to go to the morning sessions on 32nd street. It’s 5-7 so I’m gonna see if listening to music helps me swim longer. I love swimming, don’t get me wrong, but it’s like running only worse. SOOOOO QUIET! At least with running, you can always watch tv, listen to music and even read books if you’re walking. But now, I have my stuff. My hair won’t get wet, my eyes won’t burn and I won’t be in silence. 🙂
Yea I was bored. Sue me. Wait, don’t. I’m broke.
Off to bed. 🙂